I suffer from chronic negative mind syndrome. I like to think of it as being a realist.
I never realized how bad it was till I got married. Benton so kindly pointed it out. It's a good thing he did or I might still think everyone hates me & that I have cancer. My life motto: "Always have low expectations and then you're never disappointed."
Not really, but you get my drift. I'm negative & it's a problem.
So,
one of my new years resolutions is to become blind to all the crap going on around me, I mean... to be more optimistic. Honestly, I have no clue how I'm going to do this, but at least I've got the first step down.
"admitting the problem."
That's like I'd be reading my notes :). I totally get you. It's hard, beacause once you go on that negative rollercoasater it takes so much time to get back to "normal". Bu yes - baby steps and we'll get there :). My new motto: chill! ;)
ReplyDeleteThanks for your nice words on my blog, means a lot.
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http://gita-oddsandends.blogspot.com/
This made me chuckle because I'm the same way. Always needlessly negative, and always convincing myself something is horribly wrong with me. Congrats on step 1 :)
ReplyDeleteAnnie
The Other Side of Gray
Ve-ry similar to one of my own resolutions Jessica. Good luck!
ReplyDeletehahaha, oh I understand this far too well. my fiance has a knack for ONLY being able to see the good in shitty situations - and honestly, it gets daunting at times. That being said - i realized my attitude could probably use an adjustment as well. Things that help me: VERBALIZING the good things (or writing it down somewhere)- when i start becoming negative about something, it's time to move onto a new task. HOT YOGA - just picked this up again and although its 90 minutes of sweaty torture, it has a way of relaxing and recentering you. goodluck!
ReplyDeleteMy husband is super optimistic & positive too, so it's hard for him when I'm negative a lot. And it's also hard for me when I just want to complain about something & he always finds a way to make it positive. (I should be grateful for that, not the other way around)
DeleteAnyways, thanks for your tips, I'll definitely try them.
"...I might still think everyone hates me & that I have cancer. My life motto: "Always have low expectations and then you're never disappointed."
ReplyDeleteUm, are we the same person? Hahaha this sounds all to familiar to me.
Thanks for this post. I needed it. I really want to work on focusing on the positive, too.
Nicole
settleinn.blogspot.com
haha we might be the same person.
Deletegood luck focusing on the positive!
I am speechless, darling.
ReplyDeleteIt's hard, really, to be positive all the time! Try and focus on small things and just immediately complain about the things that bther you and let it go. It's worth having a bit of a whine fest for a few minutes so it doesn't bottle up, but once it's out there, move on. I have to learn to do this myself and it's gotten better.
ReplyDeleteok. i love this. i used to be exactly the same. it was BAD in high school. but when crap happened and i was at my lowest i realized i really needed to change my attitude and forget about the bad stuff. so i made a HUGE effort to be more positive. i can still be a negative nancy, but i'm much more positive than i used to be. one thing that helped me- smile and laugh all the time. smile when you're walking through the grocery store and stuff. smiling even when i have to fake it really helps me because then other people smile at me or people talk to me because i look much friendlier than if i were looking blank. then that actually does make me smile. it's just good.
ReplyDeleteand i agree with kathy. actually think and talk about the good things. if you're too busy talking about great things, its easier to forget the bad.
not that you asked for advice or anything... but oh well! haha theres my two cents.
I guess negativity is something we all feel sometimes, and yes, it is so hard to be optimistic all the time. Especially, if things aren't going our way or how we planned them.
ReplyDeleteIt is a brave thing for you to admit that you do have a problem, I think the only advice I could give you is to pray. God is always there to give us light when we're confused, to give us sunshine on our rainy days and to pick us up when we stumble down. Also, try to count your blessings more than your troubles. Always remember that you are loved. *Hugs
I struggle with this too and I have a hard time even knowing where to start. We moved here six months ago and it is the first time since high school I have struggled making friends and my husband travels sometimes a month at a time with his job.
ReplyDeleteI have decided that I am going to try hard to learn how to be optimistic while still being real this year. Hard to balance!
i feel negative alll the time. i guess i should probably admit to that problem as well. you go girl.
ReplyDeletei feel you girl! It's so hard to stay positive in some situations, I've learned to make myself breathe for ten seconds before I react to a situation, it seems to evoke my more rational side to come out.
ReplyDeletegood luck +++
oh my gosh, i love you so much more now, because i totally get you! sometimes it feels like i'm stuck in a fog of negativity and anxiety and it gets so overwhelming. really sucks the joy out of life. and i'm also a huge hypochondriac. i resolved this year to start each day just taking some time to thank God for what i'm thankful for, and to pray for my family and read scripture. i'm also trying to treat myself better - keep up with supplements, work out more, take more bubble baths lol. i so want this to be a happier year than last year. i hope the same for you! much love! Xx
ReplyDeleteI'm glad I'm not alone. But not glad that you have to deal with this too. I think it's great that you are working on treating yourself better & thanking God for what you have. Maybe I'll start with that too :)
DeleteThanks for sharing.
I can be super negative too..... ughh, frustrating. I tell myself that it is simply because I know what I want, I know who I am, and I know what I like. So, when I don't like something, I have no reservations about saying it. Anywho... I like Jacqueline's advice to just start with being thankful. #Convicting
ReplyDeleteHahahaha! I hear ya. It's so hard to always see the rainbows and butterflies when you're focused on the rain (or impending rain), isn't it? Well, you're right. The first step has been taken...and I think you're gonna beat this Johnny Raincloud business! :-) All the best!
ReplyDeleteugh! is it bad that i can totally identify with almost all of that...right down to a more positive other half!
ReplyDeletexo from nyc & http://www.the-beautiful-things.com
Well, you got a friend here. Although, with me, it works by periods. But this week, I think I could bury myself under tons of chocolate to forget the rest. And I don't even like chocolate.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with your resolution, I'll try it too ;)
Mélanie.